I was one of those people who loathed the single life. I couldn’t stand having to wait around for friends, all with significant others, or resort to my own dull company when a new movie that I wanted to watch hit the screens.
Stuck In A Rut
How do I get out of this rut? I had whined, over and over, to anybody who would listen. Taking on the skepticism that the bitter spinsters are famous for, I bemoaned the lack of possibility around me.
It was either that there wasn’t any one person who fit in with my type, or that the ones who did had already been swooped up well before. I think I had gotten so used to despairing that in a sense, I grew used to it, whining about as often as I spoke; it was just that automatic and natural.
It was at this point that my friend suggested I try out a dating app, the infamous Tinder. I was reluctant and immediately reticent, I considered the suggestion almost offensive and bristled at having been viewed at as that far gone. In the privacy of my own home, without a word uttered to any of my friends, I decided to give it a try.
Before I had a chance to change my mind, I downloaded the app and began to swipe. It was with a lot of skepticism that I eyed each contender. They were more attractive than I believed realistic, and matches made my phone ping an almost disconcerting amount.
Examining My Matches
Still, I swallowed all my misgivings and examined my matches, and then began to speak to them. Most of these conversations failed to boost my confidence, but for one, a light, jokey colloquy with a long haired, self-professed nerd named Andrew.
As we spoke, I found myself getting alarmingly comfortable with this stranger, we seemed to have several interests in common, and after a little persuading, I shared my usernames on various other chat apps with him so that we could continue our conversations.
We met three days later. He took me on a long drive down a coast-side road and we spent our time narrating to each other several humorous anecdotes from our early lives. I found myself reluctant to say goodbye to him, and we quickly arranged the next meet up to happen that weekend.
We’ve been dating for fourteen months now. I can’t think of anyone that I’ve met that would be more suited for me than he is, and I’m very grateful to myself for having stepped out of my comfort zone and given that dating app a try.